No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.
– Alice Walker
Last fall, I had to make a decision regarding a friend. After many years, and an obviously destructive relationship, I had to “break up” with her. I think of her often; it is so random at times when my thoughts of her pop up. It may have been one of the hardest choices I have ever had to make regarding a friend.
But it is moments like this, moments when I read quotes like that (found on Myla Kent’s Flickr stream), that I know, without a doubt, that I made the right choice.
I would never tolerate a bad relationship with someone I was dating – not now, not after the lessons I have learned the hard way in life and the hurdles I have overcome – so why tolerate a bad relationship with a friend like that? It doesn’t make sense when you look at it that way, does it? I didn’t think so, so I made a hard call and decided to make a change. That doesn’t mean I don’t have moments in passing where I think of her and wonder how she is doing. I wish her nothing but the best, but I know that I can not be a part of it.
Why do women do that? What is it about us that makes us willing to accept something like that? What makes someone the type of friend that would hold another friend back from reaching for her dreams?