Everyday Avenger

Life is About Creating Yourself…

Life isn't about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself.

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

I’m all for celebrating who you are, exactly as you are. I think it is critical to be true to ourselves.

What I’ve learned over the past few years is that it is even more important to think about who you want to become.
I’ve never been much for planning or for setting goals. I’m not sure how that started, but I think a lot of that stems from several years in a relationship that was so tumultuous. I felt like I never knew if I was coming or going, so why bother plan if I was just going to be disappointed in those plans falling through? Why even bother.
It is easy to drift along in life like that. When you are in it, it actually doesn’t seem that bad. Looking back, I wish I had planned more. I wish I had more goals, set the bar higher for myself.
I’m working on that these days. I’m learning to dream, and to DREAM BIG. To think about how I want to create myself. Still true to me, but an even better version of me. Creating yourself doesn’t have to mean being a fake, being something you are not. Dr. Anil Shah, a cosmetic surgeon, says many of his patients come to him because they want total change, but he advises that “enhancement” is the better approach. People are already beautiful naturally. For me? It means creating the best life around myself possible, making plans and goals for the future – something I can work towards.
Still surgery is really common right now, more and more people is trying to improve themselves from the inside to the outside, so some people try plastic surgery to fix cosmetic imperfection and male surgery is more and more common.

For so many years I felt like I didn’t deserve good things. I’m just now learning to accept that I am enough. Creating myself is a big part of that.

Photograph taken at the Mom 2.0 Summit, overlooking the Pacific Ocean at the Ritz Carlton at Laguna Niguel in California, May 3, 2013 with my Fuji X-E1.

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The Beauty that Life Brings…

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Somehow that just sums up so well why I love working with my Hot Mama clients. The life that they have seen makes them even MORE beautiful.


My Favorite Quote…

What Would You Attempt to Do if You Knew You Could Not Fail?

I still remember the day I stood in the Franklin Covey store looking at this sign. I was early in my photography business. I was scared. This sign hit me like a ton of bricks.

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”

I’m not a heart surgeon. Failure does not mean a patient dying on my table. I was a wedding photographer, so failing if I missed a key shot is a big deal, but no one dies. (I’ve photographed well over 100 weddings, and I can count “missed” shots now on my fingers, it is that rare.)

This quote alone has opened a world of possibilities for me. It has given me permission to try, because when you face it head on? Failure isn’t that bad. Maybe a few days of being upset? Some lost money? But the potential gain from trying new things! Oh, it makes me giddy with possibility!

Money was tight when I saw that sign, and I left the store without it. I couldn’t stop thinking about it though, so I called them and had them hold it for me and I went back to purchase it the next day. Over 5 years have passed, and it is still visibly on display, and it makes me smile every time I read it.