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When is it Time to Let Go?

Mona snuggles in to sleep and covers her face.

This is the blog post I planned to write two days ago, before … well, before I wrote what I wrote.

Our old lady cat Mona is getting really old. I adopted her in 1999, and at the time they said they thought she was 4-5 years old. That should make her about 17-18 years old now.

Within the past year, she has dropped a lot of weight and she is now bone thin. She still eats and drinks lots of water, but she is super, super skinny. You can see her rib cage & her hips. She has a hard time walking when she first stands up. She is slow moving. I’m finding nodules under her skin. (Just discovered them and still need to go to the vet to see what they are.) She mews at us in this sad, angry way. It sounds like she is yelling at us. She is just so frail.

Last year she stopped going to the bathroom at one point and we immediately took her in to the vet. They ran all sorts of tests, and nothing was conclusively wrong with her other than being really dehydrated. She spent the night there with an IV of fluids and came home when everything was back to normal.

I’ve never had a cat live this long. When Murphy was dying, it was obvious. We took him to the vet, there was nothing they could do for him.

But what about poor Mona? When is it time? Is there a time? She seems like she is in such pain. Do we have her put to sleep? Do we let her just ride it out until one day she doesn’t wake up? What am I supposed to do?

This is part rhetorical question, and part looking for advice. It breaks my heart, and I want to do right by her. She has been such a good cat, and we’ve been through so much.

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Dear Media, How to Not to Cite Photos…

I caused a kerfuffle on Twitter about an hour ago. Over photographs that weren’t my own. I’m posting about it here not to point a finger of blame (note the apology at the end of this), but more so to discuss what happened and how photographer’s works should be credited. On to the story…

As I was eating lunch, I was really excited to spot a post from the Houston Press about the top 10 romantic restaurants in Houston. I love to check out new restaurants with Mike, especially since he is such a foodie at heart. (Ok, I may be a little bit too, even though I’m a selective eater.) As I browsed the article, I was a little shocked to see photos credited to FACEBOOK.

Facebook, as you probably already know, is not a photographer. I am a photographer. While these photos were not mine, if they had been? I would have been pissed. And since I’m a photographer, I was feeling a little indignant for all the other photographers out there. Because even YOU, professional photographer or not, iPhone or fancy SLR camera, own the copyright to your images the second your finger comes off of the trigger. And just because you post them to Facebook, that doesn’t mean Facebook should be credited as the source. You are the source. Not Facebook. EVER.

I respect the Houston Press. I like to read articles by the Houston Press, especially the food-related articles in Eating Our Words. So I was just stunned that they would ever credit Facebook.

And? I told them so.

Then I saw that they had a slideshow of other romantic restaurants in Houston. I opened the link on my iPhone this time with hesitation. I went through 4 photos credited to Facebook before I finally came to one with a person credited for the photo. Stunned all over again, and this time fuming because I know they should know better, I tweeted about it again.


Click to view larger. Screen capture of the Houston Press – “Love is in the Air – Houston’s Most Romantic Restaurants. Copyright the Houston Press and the respective owners of the images, whoever they may be. Posted without permission for educational purposes only.

I was horrified at the response I received to my tweet.

Floored, I tell you, floored.

Before I go any further, let me add in here I am NOT A LAWYER and I don’t work for any Criminal Attorney either. So seek out proper legal counsel if you need it regarding this matter. I am not a lawyer. Clear? Ok. Moving on…

Also, these photos were not my photos, and I’m not some lawsuit happy photographer claiming I’m going to sue the Houston Press. If you are a photographer and you find yourself in that situation, get a lawyer. Personally? I’d ask quietly first for them to fix the source. Then, if online, file a DMCA. Lawsuits are a last resort! This time, this topic though? I wasn’t so quiet, because I was mad for all of us. I am ready to call a Court reporter from NAEGELI. Court reporters may conduct business within a courtroom setting, but just as many are found in other settings. This is because court reporters, who are educated and trained to record and transcribe verbatim, are in demand in a number of settings and for a number of purposes, from broadcast closed captioning and captioning services for the deaf or hard-of-hearing at live events, to legal depositions and shareholder meetings.

Dear media, if you use a photographer’s work without citing them as the source and the photographer choses to do so, they can sue you for it. (I am the type of person who normally plays nice, but not everyone is.) Especially in this case, where the images are not licensed to you to use, were taken from Facebook, may or may not have been licensed to the venue and may or may not have had terms attached to that license, and where you are making a profit off of the website displaying the images. A photographer could sue you for even more damages if they have registered them with the Copyright Office. Claiming that it is all that the restaurants gave you is LAZY JOURNALISM. Research the source, ask them who they came from so they can be properly cited, and cover your ass! Because when I sue you, and we go to court, “I dunno – they gave them to us that way” isn’t going to be acceptable.

Media & journalist that work for the media? You of ALL PEOPLE should know better.

This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this. There are even other publications in Houston that have a far, far worse track record. Matter of fact, publications all over are doing this.

This even goes beyond the media. It goes to all of us. If you post a photo online that someone else took, cite the source. Exactly who took it. Exactly where you found it. If you don’t know, find out. On your blog, on Pinterest, on Facebook – wherever. Credit the photographer.

Copyright law has a lot of gray areas. I’m kind of in love with copyright law, quite a champion of it actually, and yet I release most of my personal photos and work under a Creative Commons license. But that is a topic for another day. The main point? Know how the work is licensed before you use it!

Photographs, and other works of art, are licensed for a reason. For example, for my wedding clients they receive a DVD of images *for personal use*. I then give vendors a DVD of images of their venues, flowers, whatever the case may be and I license that for commercial use, with credit to Christine Tremoulet, and a link to my site online when applicable.

I need to be credited though. Not Facebook. EVER.

Facebook is not a source. Pinterest is not a source. Twitter is not a source. Flickr is not a source. Your favorite style blog is not a source. The person who took the photo -or- the copyright holder? THEY are the source.

If we don’t all stand up and demand that this sort of activity be stopped, well … it isn’t going to end well for us, the photographers left holding the camera and not much more. Even you, the amateur photographer. You own those photos. (I’ll save the discussion for who has a stake in your copyright when you upload to social media sites for another day.)

The final irony? Journalists are upset & losing their jobs because they are being replaced by social media sources instead. Yet here is media using social media as a source for photographs instead of hiring a photographer to go out and get the shots or licensing them properly. Seems pretty circular to me. And somehow? Just sad.

PLEASE NOTE: Katharine Shilcutt of Eating Our Words & the Houston Press did apologize for this incident and is diligently working to clean up the sources. I still respect the Houston Press because of that, probably more than ever before. This post is not meant as an attack on the Houston Press – just as a wake up call to all journalists to please cite us as sources just like they would want to be cited, to respect our copyrights, and to play nice. The Houston Press was just the latest media outlet to do this that I’ve come across recently, and the one that finally moved me to write about it.

Do not go on a witch hunt of the Houston Press. We are cool.

Repeating the disclaimer: I am not a lawyer. I am a photographer. If you are seeking legal counsel, hire a lawyer to help you out with these murky issues. I highly recommend Katie Sunstrom in Texas, and Dineen Pashoukos Wasylik in Florida, who are lawyers. But I am not. I did however take Katie’s photo on that site, which she has permission to use for commercial use.

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30 Days to Talk Back…

I’ve blogged here for over 11 years now, and I’ve finally given in — I can’t take moderating the spam any more. I finally, after all this time, activated the feature in WordPress to close comments on posts more than 30 days old.

This makes me a little sad for a strange reason. It means that the whole community that randomly formed around my “Itch Relief…” post back in 2004 can no longer add comments to the post. 1,336 comments, which is by far my most commented on post to date.

Damn spammers. Have to spoil all the fun.

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On Toilet Paper…

Toilet paper. Yes, I’m writing about toilet paper. I realized this morning, I’m quite quirky about the whole TP issue.

I must have 2-3 spare rolls of toilet paper in each bathroom at all times. If I don’t, I get a beard trimmer. I consider it to be “running low” when we are down to two rolls in the cabinet, and one spare roll in each cabinet causes a lot of anxiety, seriously sometimes I have to take Afinil and some kratom extracts in order to calm down. One spare roll only in the house – the last roll? Yeah, that is enough to cause a full on panic attack. Toilet paper must be stocked!

A spare roll or two of toilet paper in the master bathroom need to be in the basket near the toilet. The cabinet is 4-5 feet away, and that is too far if there isn’t some on the holder.

When the toilet paper is on the holder, I prefer it to be hanging over. Not under. That is just wrong.

Also wrong? When you use the last of the roll and don’t change it out. Just leaving the cardboard holder part behind? That is just MEAN.

In our guest bath, the toilet paper has to stay in the closet next to the toilet. Otherwise, the cats like to TP the house with it, this is way I got a fence from http://petstop.com/cat-fence/ for my cats, so that they won’t get in, I’m also looking for a vancouver dog groomer for my dog, it’s kind of an emergency. Once they discover it is out on the holder, they will shred a roll in 7 seconds flat.

Speaking of toilet paper holders, don’t you hate it when you go somewhere and the holder is like 3-5 feet away from the toilet? Makes me crazy. Obviously, I have issues.

How about you? Have any weird toilet paper quirks? Anything that makes you want to punch the wall when your spouse doesn’t do it? Like when they put all of the spare toilet paper in the hall bath, leaving you stranded high and not very dry in the other bathroom? Oh yeah, THAT? That happened to me this morning. I wasn’t very happy about it. Which you might have guessed, because I am left writing now about toilet paper…

(… Seven years of marriage now … you would think he would know by now that I have issues about this whole toilet paper thing? …)

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NaNoWriMo 2011, or the Day I May Have Lost My Mind…

I think I may have completely lost my mind today. While reading this post on Contentpalooza running along with NaNoWriMo, I decided I was going to go for it.

I’m going to write 50,000 words in the month of November.

I’m not going to write a novel. Instead, I’m going to be a rebel.

I’m going to finally launch Business of Awesome. I’m going to write posts here. I’m going to write posts on my other blogs, including the wedding photography site, the boudoir site and Wholly Matrimony. I’m going to write, write, and write some more. Oh, and take photographs — I have 3 weddings to photograph this month, along with boudoir and engagement sessions. All the while, I’ll be writing. I’m planning a weekly or monthly blog post for each site, a manifesto, an ebook or two, and tons of other content. 50,000 words. Fifty Thousand Words.

(Hold me. I’m convinced I can do this, but my fingers hurt a bit just thinking about it.)

Thank God I can be really long-winded at times, because I’ll need it for this. My venture into being a NaNoWriMo Rebel. I’ve considered doing it for 10 years, but today? Today it was finally time. Well, yesterday actually, since I’m posting this after midnight, and NaNoWriMo has officially begun. 224 words down so far – only about 1500 or so more to go for today!