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My ex-husband sent me an e-mail yesterday in response to a joke I had sent to him. He wrote about 3 words about that and then writes, “so how ya doing? I am going to be a dad … kinda scared about it but happy.” And nothing more! If I could fly out to North Carolina right now (he is at Ft. Bragg) and kick his ass I would. We were divorced in 1993 (after being separated for a loooong time). Then he remarried, and his now ex-wife cheated on him while he was in Bosnia. But he didn’t divorce her immediately because he is Mr. Nice Guy and told me, “well, she needs help so she can stand on her own two feet” I said, “well, she should have thought about that before she laid in someone else’s bed!” So he stayed married to her through his tour of duty to Korea (over a year) and they were finally divorced last fall. He just started dating his current girlfriend in January and by February he told me how he was all but living with her. I *told* him to be careful. Sex makes babies. If you don’t want to pay the price, don’t play the game. It’s that simple. Why don’t people understand that? Ugh. My personal measure is simple – if I wouldn’t want to spend the rest of my life dealing with someone then I am not ready to sleep with them. Well, that’s my “goal” measure. We are all human. I haven’t always lived by that rule – but *every* time, in hindsight, I wish that I had and I am thankful that I did not end up pregnant. My ex is 34 now. He knows the consequences of his own actions. He even told me at one point in time when we were discussing the fact that he was basically living with his girlfriend that they were “beening very careful.” Obviously not careful enough! Hmmm… sad but true, there is a part of me that wonders if he thought they were being careful but she knew better? *sigh* I don’t like thinking things like that about people. Maybe their version of “careful” was the fact that she was on the pill – which loses effectiveness when you drink, when you miss a day, when you take it late, when you take other medicine, and the list goes on. Definately not fool-proof. My poor ex. He is *not* ready to be in another relationship, and now this. Geepers. Like I said – sex makes babies. Simple concept. Big results. I wish them both the best. I know my ex will be a terrific dad, so at least that is one good thing about all of this.