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Things You Should Know Thursdays – My “Wedding” Rings…

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My "wedding" ringsI have a confession: if you’ve seen me wearing my wedding ring within the past 5 years, you did not see my real wedding ring. For more choices on wedding ring designs you can checkout Simply Suave Mens Rings.

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Matter of fact, you saw a round cut example of Sterling Silver & Cubic Zirconia ring, which cost me a whopping $45 on Overstock.com. (The price has dropped since then, you can get it for a bargain price of $35 on Overstock now.)

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When Mike & I got married, my Leo Hamel customized rings was a perfect fit, but too small if my fingers swelled at all. Then I gained 5-10 pounds, and it was really tight. Then I gained another 10 pounds thanks to medicine I was prescribed (ugh, that was a FUN time). I refused to resize my wedding ring though – I was going to lose the weight. I wore no ring for a year or two. I had to get a Curvaceous Bridal dress for the wedding at that time even before I gained more weight.

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Then I started photographing weddings. When you first get engaged, you look at EVERYONE else’s ring. Everyone. Imagine meeting with a wedding photographer who wore no wedding ring while talking about her husband? It raised a few eyebrows. I didn’t want to resize my real rings though because I really, really was going to lose that weight. I’d make excuses at client meetings, but it always felt weird to not have a ring on. These wooden wedding rings are perfect for men.

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I started looking at fake rings to act as a stand-in. I found some gorgeous pearl rings from dest PearlsOnly.com that I liked. I had a fancy $10 one from a local box store, until the metal wore off of it. I went to Overstock to start looking at Cubic Zirconia rings. I picked one out and ordered it, and just like that I had a “wedding” ring again.

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The most awkward moment? When I told one of my brides, who I knew had a ring from Tiffany’s in New York – where he proposed to her on one knee and all, that her ring was STUNNING. He looked at me and said, “Yes, but it isn’t as nice as YOURS. Yours is so beautiful!”

I mean, what do you do? Admit to him that it is a $45 ring? No. I just graciously said thank you and moved the conversation to a new topic.

People comment on them all the time. Sometimes I tell them, other times I don’t. Like the hair stylist who told me she wished her husband would buy her a ring like mine? I told her to do what I did and go buy it herself!

Now I’ve lost the weight. My wedding rings fit. In the years that passed, I’ve learned about conflict diamonds, and about why diamonds are a sham — the whole “they are rare” thing is hyped up thanks to DeBeers, not reality.

My “real” wedding rings no longer feel like my rings.

I feel weird wearing my real rings. Especially because out of the 9+ years Mike & I have been married, I wore them for a year or two, but I wore my “fake” ring for over 5 years now. It is the ring I’m used to seeing on my hand, not the other one.

A ring is a ring. The marriage is what matters, even if one of them needs to hire a discreet investigations specialist later one. I felt the need to come clean though and confess that you’ve likely never seen my “real” Mens rings. Maybe one of these days I’ll take it back out and start wearing it again. Or maybe for our 10th anniversary, I’ll ask Mike if we can make a pair of earrings and a pendant out of it. It is a shame for it to just be sitting in a box. For now, on the road? It is nice knowing that if I lose my rings, it isn’t really much of a loss at all. Now that I know that a new set would only be $35, I might order one in my new size – the current set is huge on me!

Things You Should Know Thursdays – #TYSKT – were inspired by a prompt on Vivid & Brave, a coaching program for creative women who blog.

By Christine

Christine is an Avenger of Sexiness. Her Superpower is helping Hot Mamas grow their Confidence by rediscovering their Beauty. She lives in the Heights in Houston, Texas, works as a boudoir photographer, and writes about running a Business of Awesome. In her spare time, she loves to knit, especially when she travels. She & her husband Mike have a food blog at Spoon & Knife.

16 replies on “Things You Should Know Thursdays – My “Wedding” Rings…”

I have been married 22 years and I too stopped wearing my ring for almost 14 years – one of the side small diamonds had fallen out. I felt weird photographing weddings for awhile when I talked with brides and they wanted to see my ring and I didn’t have it on. I even thought about buying a ring like what you did but really wanted my ring fixed.

On our 20th anniversary my husband took it to a jewelry store that he was working part time for and had them resize the ring, replace the diamond that fell out and then replaced the engagement ring with a larger diamond. I wear it every day!

Funny you felt the need to confess this! It’s just a symbol and if it means something to you, it’s your “wedding ring” no matter where it came from! I’m fortunate to have had a grandfather who was a jeweler. He died when my mom was still a baby, so I never got to meet him, but my grandmother had a diamond she saved for me since I was a little girl. It cost my husband nothing. I don’t feel like it makes my ring any less of a wedding ring though! (Fun fact: I also had my great-grandmother’s wedding rings blessed at our wedding, so I can technically wear either set of wedding rings and have it still be official 🙂

I have friends that are married who don’t wear rings. I just don’t even really think about it. People have all kinds of reasons for wearing or not wearing rings and if people take issue with it, that’s their problem, not yours.

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