I would understand if my ex’s wife was mad because I had written to him and said something that implied I wanted to get back together. I have NEVER said that, and if they are reading that into my messages… well, that’s not the case. If I had said that though I would understand – as a wife or girlfriend I would be pissed too. I haven’t though. Since the day Rick told me she was pregnant I have asked about the baby, about the mom (I didn’t know her name because he is the type to say “this is my wife.” or “this is my girlfriend.” and not tell you a name – used to drive me NUTS!) I think it pissed me off twice as much because I have been composing this kind, sweet, outreach e-mail in my mind & debating if I should write it. I wanted to tell her, “Hey, I know it’s not easy, hang in there…” I have been picking out baby presents for them! I was going to get them a wedding gift! And then I get this “you are the ex-wife and you have no rights” e-mail. It is as if the past 12 years of my life mean NOTHING. All the months, actually years, of anxiety while he was in Turkey, Bosnia, Korea. NO. Damn it, that counts for something.
More irony… a friend of mine just said that her e-mail was irrational. I, being the way I always am, just defended her! Because being pregnant makes you irrational. I understand that. More than any other female Rick knows, she should feel safe about ME. I want nothing more than the happiest life for them. Imagine the kick in the gut feeling I had though when I got this e-mail. Bah. Hopefully she will see, I do care about the THREE of them. And if someday she breaks Rick’s heart I will come and kick her ass. (That was the same threat I have used about wife #2, Valerie, and if I ever met her face to face she would be goin’ DOWN for the pain she put Rick through.) Hopefully though she will never break his heart and he will have the life & love he so deserves. I wish nothing more than that for any of my FRIENDS.