Something Has to Give…

Generally, I’m happy with how I look. Yes, I know I should lose weight for my health and well being, but as Emily said one day, I have a good figure. I don’t feel like incrediblob walking down the street – most of the time. Then there are times like last night, when it hits me that something has got to give. Jason’s school has a gala this weekend, and I need a “formal” dress to wear. I found dresses in my size, but either the sleeves were too small or it was tight in the wrong places or … whatever, they just didn’t fit.

I haven’t been really doing Weight Watchers in months. I have been watching portions, and I have cut out almost all caffiene – where I used to drink 3-4 cans of Pepsi a day, I am down to 1 soft drink a day, at the most. Sometimes I don’t have any. But I haven’t been counting points like I know I should, so I’m at a stagnant point. Last night I realized that while the wedding is 116 days away, the Body-For-Life program only takes 12 weeks – 84 days. I’m already eating “ok” for the most part, so maybe I could do it this time. Maybe I could push myself to make it through the whole 12 weeks. The exercise will take a time commitment, but I need to do it. I have to make it happen. I want results like this or like this – and the only way I will get them is to throw myself in full force. Come Monday, I’m going for it. Something has to give, and I’m the only one that can make it happen. I can do it. I can do it!

By Christine

Christine is an Avenger of Sexiness. Her Superpower is helping Hot Mamas grow their Confidence by rediscovering their Beauty. She lives in the Heights in Houston, Texas, works as a boudoir photographer, and writes about running a Business of Awesome. In her spare time, she loves to knit, especially when she travels. She & her husband Mike have a food blog at Spoon & Knife.

21 replies on “Something Has to Give…”

I don’t diet. I’ve yo-yo’d enough in my life that I’d rather maintain my current weight and try to incorporate eating healthier and moving more (I need to work harder on that last one) as opposed to trying to be a particular size–either clothing or weight.

Western society is totally fucked up when it comes to body shapes and sizes–particularly women’s. I’m doing my part to break down that ideal by being an unrepentant fat chick. I don’t need to justify what I eat (or don’t eat) to anyone but myself. I don’t need to apologize to anyone for taking up space.

But that’s where I am. Everyone is free to choose what they want to do with their bodies, so I hope that you can achieve the body you desire–if it is, in fact the one you desire and not the one you think you should have based on some sort of societal criteria.

This topic has been popping up all over the blog community – the issue of weight and weight loss and self-image and what have you.

So, I’ll re-hash what I’ve commented elsewhere and say this. I’ve dated rail thin Kate Moss framed women and I’ve dated women about the frame of Cathryn Manheim – and all inbetween. I think BBWs are beautiful. I think tall voluptuous women are beautiful. I think short skinny women are beautiful.

So then, where does it all lie? Does being physically “fit” make one beautiful? Is being “fit” a matter of the body? Or more a matter of the mind or heart? or all of them? Well, it sort of depends on what you’re after.

In my opinion, if you want to lose weight for your own health, by all means do so. Set realistic goals, abide by them, and enjoy your life. Be not afraid of a stumbling block or obstacle here and there.

Just go. Get it done. In the cliche words of Nike: “Just do it.”

If you choose instead to exercise your mind, then do that too. After all, the most attractive looking woman immediately becomes ugly if she opens her mouth and says something stupid. So, exercise your mind if you want. Read, learn, whatever you want to do it.

Again, do it.

But if all you after is pure vanity (which I don’t think is the case here on this post) then the person will fail miserably because the vanity will pass, and you will be seen as a phony and that will make you extremely unattractive.

The point here, do it for yourself and because you believe in it. Just remember that if you fall here and there that all that is required is that you get back up and do that which you set out to do.

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting you only once, albeit briefly, at Cafe Brasil, and I agree with Emily. I am excited to hear of your wedding, and I think is a wonderful time for your life.

So, do what you will to continue the positive flow of energy in your life and just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Because then it is a far more achievable goal than you realize.

Go for it.

As you know, I’ve lost about 60# in the past year. I feel much better health-wise, but for some reason I never think I’m thin enough. Don’t let your new BFL goals be blinded by the physical beauty of it all. Try to stay focused on the weight-loss goal itself.


As I said, I’m generally happy right where I am at. It’s when I can’t find clothes that fit – or the clothes that I want to look good on me look like sausage casings instead – that I realize I have to do something. It’s not as much about losing weight though – it’s more about getting in shape. Heck, one of the women I linked to had dropped several dress sizes, but she had only lost 4 pounds. I don’t care what the scale says – I just want my favorite pants to fit again. I want to be more “lean” then I am today – but beyond that, I’m ok with where I am at. I’ve never been below a size 12 since my senior year in high school – I don’t plan to go there now either. But being able to wear some 12s again (instead of 14-16 and sometimes 18) would be a nice perk.

It’s all been said above Christine. I hear you, it’s about feeling comfortable with yourself and feeling good. wishing you luck, but knowing that you won’t need it. will be here on the sidelines cheering you on. *big squishes* you can do it!

The one thing that helps the most in undertaking any kind of diet and exercise plan is to have a partner to share it with. If you and Mike can agree to tackle this thing jointly – and commit to helping each other reach your respective goals – your success is far more likely than if either of you tried it alone.

Good luck!

Christine, you are gorgeous just as you are. But if you want to make a change for health reasons, I’m supporting you all the way. And if you want a walking buddy, I could sure use one!


I agree wholeheartedly that working in pairs or groups is the best for this sort of thing. I started last year just doing racquetball with the DougMan from my site and now I have been working out almost daily. With support is the best way.

Try CURVES… never been a gym rat before in my life but this is WORKING for me.. If I had your ability to watch what I ate I would lose 2x as much!

Good on ya! I started up with a serious diet regime on November 1 and am finally seeing results (thanks to the diet and my ongoing exercise programme).

Whatever gets you motivated to get fit is good, in my opinion. BFL is nice. We don’t follow his diet or even, exactly, his exercise programme. But his philosophy is great! Make exercise and healthy eating two core values of your life and you’ll be feeling a lot better (as well as fitting into those favourite clothes) a lot sooner.

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